I'm working on a long post inspired by this comment (#68) over at StandFirm.
The idea is that stereotypically men define themselves by what they do, women define themselves by their relationships. Being a stereotype, while there is a great deal of truth to it, there is also some falsity.
The problem comes about when we assume a false identity. The drum movement of the last decade is an example of men not being men so much as trying to 'butch up'. Synthetic identity is a good way to self destruction, especially when it comes to something central as sex.
This may take a year or two.
Assuming I get permission from my wife. ;)