This article about one church in the Diocese of San Joaquin is well worth reading. Please note that even though the priest decided to 'Remain Episcopal' he still trusts his soon to be former bishop, Bishop Schofield.
This is how the split ought to go. The take home portion of this lesson is: Why doesn't it always happen like this and who is responsible for the majority of the additional pain, expense and litigation? What does that say about their priorities? And how do you reconcile those priorities with our call to service for God?